Guilt. Everyone feels it. Everyone talks about it. Everyone tries their best to avoid it by doing the right thing. But, no one ever tells you that there really is no way around it. Sometimes, no matter how many good things you do, you still find something to feel guilty about. This is especially true … Continue reading The Pervasiveness of Guilt
If you are anything like me, then you are constantly asking yourself if you’re a good caregiver. Am I seeing my mom enough? Am I staying long enough when I do go see her? Should I be doing this? Should I be doing that? Am I doing enough? Could I be doing more? These questions … Continue reading A Bad Caregivers Christmas
When my mom was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease in July 2010, I was just twenty-five years old. I felt like I had just been hit with a ton of bricks. Not only did I not know much about the disease, but I also did not know anyone who had ever had it. I had no … Continue reading Why Awareness Matters
I was driving home from my mom’s house one day recently when I sort of had an epiphany. It had been a pretty crappy visit. She wasn’t doing well that day and she seemed agitated the whole time I was there. I was trying to connect with her, but it wasn’t working. I was talking … Continue reading Choosing Joy
If you follow my blog, you know that several months ago my dad hired a home health aide to help take care of my mom. At the time, I was feeling stressed out, depressed, overwhelmed, and even isolated, as taking care of my mom part-time had pretty much consumed my whole life. My sister and … Continue reading Am I a Good Daughter?
Life has been pretty stressful for me lately. More so than usual. A few weeks ago, my dad went to see a dermatologist about a sore that he’s had on his neck for at least a year. Being that he is the full-time caregiver for my mom, who has Alzheimer’s, he has a tendency to … Continue reading It’s Only a Bad Day, Not a Bad Life
I see you, Alzheimer’s Daughter, trying to smile through the pain. I know how much it hurts. You feel as if both of your parents have just disappeared, vanished into some other world. Alzheimer’s World. They are gone forever. Only they’re not really gone. They’re still alive and, maybe, they live just a few miles … Continue reading Alzheimer’s Daughter