Don’t Give Up On Your Own Life

I did not allow myself to enjoy my own life when my mom was suffering from Alzheimer’s disease. I did not allow myself to enjoy spending time with my husband and friends. I did not allow myself to enjoy going away on a vacation. I did not allow myself to have fun in any sense … Continue reading Don’t Give Up On Your Own Life

To the Bride Whose Parent Has Alzheimer’s…

My husband and I are approaching our tenth wedding anniversary on September 24th. The other night we were sitting on the couch and I said to him, “You know what sucks? I hate thinking back to when we got married because it was such a painful time in my life. I love you so much … Continue reading To the Bride Whose Parent Has Alzheimer’s…

Changing Your Perspective Won’t Change Your Circumstances, But It Will Change You

When I was in the thick of my mom’s Alzheimer’s, I often felt down, depressed, and hopeless. I mostly focused on all that I had lost and would continue to lose as my mom declined. I would read things about being positive, finding joy, and hunting the good stuff and I would scoff. How could … Continue reading Changing Your Perspective Won’t Change Your Circumstances, But It Will Change You

Don’t Further Isolate Yourself—Alone Is Not the Way

When I was helping to care for my mom with Alzheimer’s, I often distanced myself from my friends because I felt like they couldn’t possibly understand what I was going through. They probably couldn’t because they had never been through it themselves, but I also never bothered trying to explain it to them. Instead, I … Continue reading Don’t Further Isolate Yourself—Alone Is Not the Way

You Can’t Control Your Situation, But You Can Control How You Choose to Deal with It

For years I struggled to accept my mom’s Alzheimer’s diagnosis. I knew she had Alzheimer’s. I wasn’t debating that. But I kept expecting her to be the same person she had always been—the same mom I had always known. Whenever she behaved differently or forgot how to do something, I would get upset, disappointed, and … Continue reading You Can’t Control Your Situation, But You Can Control How You Choose to Deal with It