“Am I doing enough?”
I can’t tell you how many times I asked myself that question when my mom was living with Alzheimer’s.
I asked my husband constantly, too, as if he would have ever told me that I wasn’t.
If you love someone with Alzheimer’s, I’m sure you can relate. But I’m going to tell you something that I wish someone would have told me.
Enough is an impossible standard.
Enough is an unattainable goal.
Enough is a setup for failure.
Because the idea of enough is subjective — it’s unclear and undefined.
Because when it comes to your loved one’s care, there is no such thing as enough — it does not exist.
If you keep chasing the land of enough, you will burn yourself out trying to get there, but you will never arrive.
Instead of trying to do enough, just focus on trying to do what you can. And on the days that you can’t do anything at all, you can still love them.
I promise you, that in itself is already enough.
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So true!