There’s No Shame in Quitting Your Job to Care for Your Loved One with Alzheimer’s

I went to the dentist for the first time in years today. I could blame it on the pandemic or the fact that we’ve moved a lot, but that’s not really the reason—at least not all of it. The real reason is that for years I had a dentist who—for lack of a better word—was … Continue reading There’s No Shame in Quitting Your Job to Care for Your Loved One with Alzheimer’s

Punishing Yourself for Your Loved One’s Suffering Won’t Do Anyone Any Good

I felt so guilty living my life while my mom was suffering from Alzheimer’s and my dad was overwhelmed with her care that I just simply stopped living my life. I still feel guilty that I didn’t have to take care of her from the minute I woke up until the minute I went to … Continue reading Punishing Yourself for Your Loved One’s Suffering Won’t Do Anyone Any Good

I’m Better On the Other Side of My Alzheimer’s Journey

There’s a lyric from a song I like by Dua Lipa that has absolutely nothing to do with Alzheimer’s, but it makes me think of it nonetheless. “Though it took some time to survive you, I’m better on the other side.” That’s exactly how I feel about my Alzheimer’s journey. It took a long time … Continue reading I’m Better On the Other Side of My Alzheimer’s Journey

Changing Your Perspective Won’t Change Your Circumstances, But It Will Change You

When I was in the thick of my mom’s Alzheimer’s, I often felt down, depressed, and hopeless. I mostly focused on all that I had lost and would continue to lose as my mom declined. I would read things about being positive, finding joy, and hunting the good stuff and I would scoff. How could … Continue reading Changing Your Perspective Won’t Change Your Circumstances, But It Will Change You

Don’t Further Isolate Yourself—Alone Is Not the Way

When I was helping to care for my mom with Alzheimer’s, I often distanced myself from my friends because I felt like they couldn’t possibly understand what I was going through. They probably couldn’t because they had never been through it themselves, but I also never bothered trying to explain it to them. Instead, I … Continue reading Don’t Further Isolate Yourself—Alone Is Not the Way