Dear Alzheimer’s Caregiver, Your Feelings Are Normal

Dear Alzheimer’s caregiver, I want you to know something. Whatever you’re feeling right now—however you’ve felt in the past—it’s all completely normal. Your feelings are completely normal. Do you feel sad, angry, depressed, isolated, or overwhelmed? Do you feel helpless, hopeless, lost, and alone? Maybe you feel happy about something else going on in your … Continue reading Dear Alzheimer’s Caregiver, Your Feelings Are Normal

When You Are Grieving, Doing Nothing Is Everything

After my mom died, I had a friend who would text me regularly to check in and see how I was doing. She would always ask, “How’s today coming along?” One day I told her how I felt lazy and unproductive because I had spent the last several weeks doing basically nothing. I told her … Continue reading When You Are Grieving, Doing Nothing Is Everything

There’s No Shame in Quitting Your Job to Care for Your Loved One with Alzheimer’s

I went to the dentist for the first time in years today. I could blame it on the pandemic or the fact that we’ve moved a lot, but that’s not really the reason—at least not all of it. The real reason is that for years I had a dentist who—for lack of a better word—was … Continue reading There’s No Shame in Quitting Your Job to Care for Your Loved One with Alzheimer’s

Punishing Yourself for Your Loved One’s Suffering Won’t Do Anyone Any Good

I felt so guilty living my life while my mom was suffering from Alzheimer’s and my dad was overwhelmed with her care that I just simply stopped living my life. I still feel guilty that I didn’t have to take care of her from the minute I woke up until the minute I went to … Continue reading Punishing Yourself for Your Loved One’s Suffering Won’t Do Anyone Any Good

I’m Better On the Other Side of My Alzheimer’s Journey

There’s a lyric from a song I like by Dua Lipa that has absolutely nothing to do with Alzheimer’s, but it makes me think of it nonetheless. “Though it took some time to survive you, I’m better on the other side.” That’s exactly how I feel about my Alzheimer’s journey. It took a long time … Continue reading I’m Better On the Other Side of My Alzheimer’s Journey